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The "Must Be Nice" Trap: Why Others Win While You Watch
In Today’s Email…
Last week when I was out eating with my wife and child, I overheard someone saying "must be nice" while scrolling through Instagram, double-tapping success posts of dropshippers and course creators. It reminded me of something crucial: everyone wants the results, but few are willing to embrace the process.
Here's why this matters:
Most entrepreneurs spend their days watching others build wealth instead of building their own
The successful ones understood that watching isn't working
Your future self is either building or still scrolling
The secret isn't luck or timing - it's starting before you feel "ready"
So this week, we're diving into the psychology behind why we stay stuck in spectator mode, and more importantly, how to shift from watching success to creating it.
🥶The Raw Truth
Everyone Is Jealous Of What You Got. Nobody Is Jealous Of How You Got It.
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Still watching others build theirs
$1/month Shopify trial → 3 months to prove yourself right → Or 3 more months of excuses
Your future self is watching.
👀 Deep Dive
Why We Want What Others Have
Think about success like a magic show.
Everyone loves watching the magician pull a rabbit from an empty hat - it's amazing!
But most people don't want to spend years practicing the same trick over and over in an empty room.
They just want the applause.
Our Brains Love Shortcuts
When we see someone with something great - like a successful business or a fit body - our mind jumps straight to wanting the end result.
It's like wanting to be a master chef but not wanting to burn a hundred meals while learning.
Our brains are wired to look for the easiest path, even when there isn't one.
The Hidden Work
Success is like an iceberg.
Everyone sees and wants the part above water - the nice car, the dream job, the perfect relationship.
But under the water is the massive chunk that holds it all up - the early mornings, the missed parties, the tough choices, and the times you wanted to quit but didn't.
The Change Nobody Sees
Here's the real truth: achieving something big changes who you are. It's like going through a transformation machine. People want to step in and out instantly, looking different. But real change happens slowly, one small choice at a time. Each choice is like a tiny brick - not very exciting on its own, but stack enough of them, and you've built something amazing.
When we understand this, we start to see success differently. It's not about wanting what others have - it's about being willing to become the kind of person who can achieve those things. Most people never make that switch in their thinking, and that's why they stay stuck wanting instead of building.
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🎬 Actionable Steps
The Daily 15
Show up for just 15 minutes every day
Focus only on the process, not results
No excuses, no exceptions
Success Study
Find one person who achieved your goal
Learn their exact timeline and struggles
Write down the unglamorous parts of their journey
Weekly Check-in
Every Sunday, ask: "Did I focus on the process or just dream about results?"
Note one small win from doing the work
Plan next week's daily 15-minute sessions
Starting with just these three helps build momentum while keeping it simple enough to actually do. The key is consistency over intensity.
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